Learning to trust myself without needing to be right.

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This week I realised something I’ve somehow overlooked.

How often I still search for confirmation.

Not because I don’t know what to do.

But because I want someone else to say it’s okay.

That I’m not messing it all up.

That I won’t regret it later.

Even when I act brave, there’s still a small part of me that wants reassurance.

A quiet voice that says, “Are you sure? What if you’re wrong?”

That voice used to run the show.

Now, I’m just learning to hear it… without obeying it.

Carl Jung once said that the greatest burden a child can carry is the unlived life of the parent.

But I think the second greatest is this:

The belief that being wrong makes you wrong.

No wonder we try so hard to get it right.

We think clarity comes before action.

But often, it’s the opposite.

Acting despite uncertainty is how clarity arrives.

Psychologists call this the “self-efficacy loop.”

Confidence isn’t something you wait for it’s something you earn, by doing.

Every small step rewires your sense of who you are.

So this week, I didn’t try to be right.

I tried to be present.

To act with honesty, even if it wasn’t perfect.

To move before I had permission.

No grand answers.

Just this.

I’m learning to trust the process more than the outcome.
I’m learning to stand by myself, even when the world hasn’t clapped yet.

Hope you are too.

- Rakesh Menon.